Common requests for psychological assistance

I have gathered here some popular reasons that, in my observations, can motivate us frequently to apply for psychological help. If you do not find a suitable description for your situation in this list, please feel free to approach me, and we can discuss the feasibility of a meeting and we can find out what kind of request you have in a dialog.

20 August, 2023

1. Relationships in a couple

  • A Difficulty in building up romantic relationships, inability to establish connections (loneliness, repeated failures, instability in relationships)
  • Coping with a breakup (emotional turmoil, a difficulty in moving on from past relationships, self-criticism, guilt, fears of starting a new relationship)
  • Relationship dissatisfaction, conflicts, and mutual resentment (in the context of couples therapy or individual counseling)
  • Dealing with a partner's infidelity
  • Internal conflicts related to relationships, such as a love triangle
  • Love addiction (losing oneself in relationships, inability to endure the separation, intense emotions seeking)
  • Suffering in the relationships the underlying mechanisms of which remain unclear to you.

2. Family

  • Marital relationships, dissatisfaction with a marriage or specific aspects of it. Family conflicts
  • Conflicts with children: psychological support for parents, seeking resources to solve the problem
  • Parenting questions (for parents of children aged 12 and above). Dealing with difficult teenagers and their challenges
  • Relationship crises
  • Working with couples going through a divorce
  • Enhancing communication skills — being heard and learning to listen
  • Relationships with parents in adulthood (resentments, mutual misunderstandings, confrontation, arguments)
  • Exploring the "past in the present" — how past family experiences influence our current life

3. Difficult life choices

  • Crisis and issues related to self-identity, seeking core meanings and values, adapting to significant life changes, setting priorities
  • Ambivalence, "pendulum" choices (e.g., leaving and returning; quitting and restarting).
  • Internal conflicts associated with the need to make choices (may manifest through physical symptoms; persistent underlying tension that doesn't subside and may even intensify during relaxation)

4. How to change your life

  • Exploring psychological "barriers" to change
  • Dissatisfaction with specific areas of one's life

5. Self-relationship, self-esteem, identity

  • Confidence and lack thereof
  • Self-discovery. Professional and personal fulfillment
  • Unstable or conflicting identity
  • Exploring and accepting one's uniqueness. Training in constructive self-criticism and recognizing desires (including conflicting aspirations) as an important foundation for a realistic positive self-perception
  • Finding and providing self-support
  • Self-destructive behavior in adolescence and adulthood

6. Personal development

  • Age-related crises
  • Enhancing quality of life through increased mindfulness (in communication with others and in internal dialogue)
  • Character therapy (Gestalt and analytical approach). "If Bob has problems with everyone, then perhaps Bob himself is the main problem"
  • Psychological work with the "future" (exploring ways to approach desired futures, loss or stability of life meanings as a result of character-related linkage between the present and predicted future; phenomena of "future neglect," "future idealization," and "past idealization")
  • Psychological work with the "past" (reinterpreting internalized introjects, traumatic experiences, recognizing "transference" patterns in everyday communication)
  • Shadow integration: working with "forbidden" and hidden contents of consciousness

7. Work with emotional states

  • Despair, confusion
  • Panic attacks, anxiety, insomnia
  • Grief. Coping with a loss
  • Resentment, including chronic resentment
  • Envy
  • Fears, phobias
  • Stress, overwhelm, living in constant tension, emotional burnout
  • Feelings of guilt
  • Suppression, low mood, apathy

8. Psychological support in difficult life situations

  • Sudden life changes
  • First pregnancy
  • Physical and psychological abuse
  • Betrayal
  • Psychological preparation for significant events
About me

Maria Dolgopolova – a certified clinical and a jungian psychologist (Moscow Association of Analytical Psychology, an IAAP training candidate studying in CGJung Institute in Zurich) with a background in gestalt therapy (Moscow Institute of Gestalt and Psychodrama, Gestalt Associates Training Los Angeles) and in psychoanalysis of object relations.

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